azm Thursday, June 21, 2007
"To err is human, to forgive is divine."Yes, forgiving is a virtue, a virtue practiced way back centuries ago. To the time when Prophet Muhamad forgave the commoners for treating him cruelly.
But no one said anythin' bout forgiving BUT not forgetting (in my view at least). I used to think I was the type. With all the"I'm sorry"-s and "I really feel bad"-s spoken yet, you'll always have that certain incident etched at the back of your head always. It's not as if it's somethin' you remembered on purpose, it's just a moment in time you happen to remember, and it just happened to be bad. And maybe sometimes when you recollect bout' those incidents, you'll let out a tear or two.
That was until someone told me that if you've truly forgiven someone, it'll be forgotten, cos the fact that you haven't forgotten bout' it only spells that you still hold a grudge against that person. I pondered over it for some time, and maybe am still pondering over it.
Nevertheless, the most vital for me is closure after the mishap. 'Cos even after an argument, if you don't come to terms bout' the bad blood i.e. talking bout it, the thought of the incident will still be lingering. And even with all the apologies, it's just plain nothing.
To conclude, I will forgive and I won't forget 'cos if you forget, what's there to serve as a reminder to not repeat the same thing over? To put it even shorter, "To forgive and seek closure" cos frankly, I won't forget.
And besides, I can't afford to bear any grudges when I eventually leave.
This entry was not meant to spite anyone. Any 'terase-ness' to anyone living or dead, bouncing lizards or what not is purely coincidental =)
I don't understand how people generally can put on a fake front. It's like being a hypocrite within oneself. I'm so going to suffer in the business world =X
Apart from my random thoughts, I've been watching Bones Seasons 1 & 2. Do I dare say it's probably better than CSI. It makes you feel for the victims, and of course the main characters. Who would have thought psychology and anthropology could exist in 1 show, when the latter is all bout hard facts and the former is subjective? And if I can sob like a baby for Season 2's finale, the rest of you'd better get ready a 1 month's supply of Kleenex on standby.